Comments on: Home http://outofthewell.com Sharing a personal journey and resources for healing from depression Mon, 31 May 2010 17:18:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: Kenneth Mahaffey http://outofthewell.com/#comment-372 Kenneth Mahaffey Mon, 31 May 2010 17:18:25 +0000 http://outofthewell.com/?page_id=20#comment-372 Thank you for creating such a valuable web site. Good and generous things don't happen without effort, and I appreciate yours. I particularly like the wonderful quotes and the entry "Stopping the worry". I am nearly 60 (next month!) and have spent much of the last 40 years overwhelmed, hating myself, depressed, and quite withdrawn; I'm still not sure what causes what, but it has been, until a couple of years ago, a reliable constellation. Even , until VERY recently, I would be lost into one escapist book after the other; lost to my wife, myself, my feelings, my work, life. Three plus years ago I started going regularly to ACA (and later OA, BDA, and WA) 12 step meetings. I've been to nearly 500 now. They are not a magic wand, but better than books. better than therapy, better than drugs for me. I now have a little higher order of problems. I have not been depressed for 2+ years--sad, scared, unhappy, extremely self critical, but not depressed. I can begin to look my life and the truth of my situation "in the face", so to speak. Begin to see my fear of connection, my lack of skills in that crucial direction. Begin to see the momentum and consequences of 3 1/2 decades of compulsive eating, buying, hoarding, thinking, working. What Carl Rogers refers to as a "curious paradox" of no change until complete acceptance still feels to me like a tragic truth, but that is beginning to shift. Thanks again. Thank you for creating such a valuable web site. Good and generous things don’t happen without effort, and I appreciate yours. I particularly like the wonderful quotes and the entry “Stopping the worry”.

I am nearly 60 (next month!) and have spent much of the last 40 years overwhelmed, hating myself, depressed, and quite withdrawn; I’m still not sure what causes what, but it has been, until a couple of years ago, a reliable constellation. Even , until VERY recently, I would be lost into one escapist book after the other; lost to my wife, myself, my feelings, my work, life.

Three plus years ago I started going regularly to ACA (and later OA, BDA, and WA) 12 step meetings. I’ve been to nearly 500 now. They are not a magic wand, but better than books. better than therapy, better than drugs for me.

I now have a little higher order of problems. I have not been depressed for 2+ years–sad, scared, unhappy, extremely self critical, but not depressed. I can begin to look my life and the truth of my situation “in the face”, so to speak. Begin to see my fear of connection, my lack of skills in that crucial direction. Begin to see the momentum and consequences of 3 1/2 decades of compulsive eating, buying, hoarding, thinking, working.

What Carl Rogers refers to as a “curious paradox” of no change until complete acceptance still feels to me like a tragic truth, but that is beginning to shift.

Thanks again.

]]> By: ann http://outofthewell.com/#comment-365 ann Thu, 06 May 2010 06:41:46 +0000 http://outofthewell.com/?page_id=20#comment-365 HI, I'm so pleased to come accross such very effective useful infomation in which I definately can relate to. So much of what has been written explains my currant situation. I would like to be part of your family support network. Thank you Ann. HI, I’m so pleased to come accross such very effective useful infomation in which I definately can relate to. So much of what has been written explains my currant situation. I would like to be part of your family support network.

Thank you
Ann.

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